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It would be an overlooking of public data—probably based on ignorance—if one were to deny the fact that in contemporary times, divorces are now happening day in and day out. Why has marriage lost the sanctity it used to have during ancient times? Let’s unpack:
Divorce is no longer viewed as a taboo like it was back in the old days. If one is not happy, they won’t hesitate to pack their bags and leave. People are now choosing happiness over sacrifice—unlike our parents, who often stayed for the sake of endurance. And surely, we can’t blame them for that.
Unrealistic expectations have also ripped apart many families. People often expect too much from their partners, fueled by what they consume daily in the media—movies, social media posts, and their favorite actors and actresses.
They forget that what they see is fiction—acting—and real life is something else entirely. Real life takes more than a few scripted minutes in front of a camera. When those expectations aren’t met, many choose to walk away, hoping to find a partner who fits the ideal in their minds. But suffice to say, the grass is not always greener on the other side.
Infidelity has become a cancer in many marriages, tearing them apart from every direction. Cheating is happening left, right, and center. Husbands are raising children that aren’t even theirs—unknowingly. This has led some to argue that DNA testing should be made mandatory at the hospital immediately after birth, to confirm if the alleged father is indeed the biological parent of the newborn innocent child.
Financial strain is another reason couples are drifting apart. Many husbands carry the heavy burden of providing for their families, while trying to meet personal goals, the desires of their partners, and extended family expectations. Overwhelmed, they retreat into silence and emotional isolation—creating distance in the relationship.
The internet has brought with it many blessings, no doubt. But alongside the good came the bad. Pornography, for instance, has destroyed many marriages. It sets unrealistic expectations in people’s minds—about bodies, intimacy, performance—and when reality doesn’t measure up, disappointment sets in, often leading to discontent and emotional withdrawal.
